Richard Feynman is one of the most interesting people of the 20th century. He was a physicist who received a Nobel Prize for his contribution to Quantum electrodynamics.
He was a beloved teacher with many books he wrote, had an interest in painting and music as well. His biggest hobby was to playing bongo drums.
He was a very versatile and successful scientist who left a mark on the World.
Feynman’s First Marriage
Feynman married his high school beloved Arline in 1942. Arline had diagnosed with tuberculosis. Arline had a happy three-year marriage that lasted until he lost his life. A year and a half after his Wife’s death, Richard Feynman wrote her a letter. This letter found in 1988 after his death.
Here’s The letter:
October 17, 1946
I adore you, sweetheart.
I know how much you like to hear that — but I don’t only write it because you like it — I write it because it makes me warm all over inside to write it to you.
It is such a terribly long time since I last wrote to you — almost two years but I know you’ll excuse me because you understand how I am, stubborn and realistic; and I thought there was no sense to writing.
But now I know my darling wife that it is right to do what I have delayed in doing, and that I have done so much in the past. I want to tell you I love you. I want to love you. I always will love you.
I find it hard to understand in my mind what it means to love you after you are dead — but I still want to comfort and take care of you — and I want you to love me and care for me.
I want to have problems to discuss with you — I want to do little projects with you. I never thought until just now that we can do that. What should we do.
We started to learn to make clothes together — or learn Chinese — or getting a movie projector. Can’t I do something now?
No. I am alone without you and you were the “idea-woman” and general instigator of all our wild adventures.
When you were sick you worried because you could not give me something that you wanted to and thought I needed. You needn’t have worried.
Just as I told you then there was no real need because I loved you in so many ways so much. And now it is clearly even more true — you can give me nothing now yet I love you so that you stand in my way of loving anyone else — but I want you to stand there. You, dead, are so much better than anyone else alive
I know you will assure me that I am foolish and that you want me to have full happiness and don’t want to be in my way. I’ll bet you are surprised that I don’t even have a girlfriend (except you, sweetheart) after two years.
But you can’t help it, darling, nor can I — I don’t understand it, for I have met many girls and very nice ones and I don’t want to remain alone — but in two or three meetings they all seem ashes. You only are left to me. You are real.
My darling wife, I do adore you. I love my wife. My wife is dead.
PS Please excuse my not mailing this — but I don’t know your new address.
Richard Feynman to Arline – Read by Oscar Isaac
Feynman wrote these lines to feel better. He made new marriages and divorced. It all happened in the shadow of his tragic marriage.
Feel free to share with someone who is sad, romantic and gives a value to love.