Richard Feynman is one of the most interesting people of the 20th century.
He was a physicist who received a Nobel Prize for his contribution to Quantum electrodynamics.
He was a beloved teacher with many books he wrote, had an interest in painting and music as well.
His biggest hobby was to playing bongo drums.
He was a very versatile and successful scientist who left a mark on the World.
Feynman’s First Marriage
Feynman married his high school beloved Arline in 1942. Arline had diagnosed with tuberculosis.
Arline had a happy three-year marriage that lasted until he lost his life.
A year and a half after his Wife’s death, Richard Feynman wrote her a letter.
This letter found in 1988 after his death.
Here’s The letter:
October 17, 1946
I adore you, sweetheart.
I know how much you like to hear that — but I don’t only write it because you like it — I write it because it makes me warm all over inside to write it to you.
It is such a terribly long time since I last wrote to you — almost two years but I know you’ll excuse me because you understand how I am, stubborn and realistic; and I thought there was no sense to writing.
But now I know my darling wife that it is right to do what I have delayed in doing, and that I have done so much in the past. I want to tell you I love you. I want to love you. I always will love you.
I find it hard to understand in my mind what it means to love you after you are dead — but I still want to comfort and take care of you — and I want you to love me and care for me.
I want to have problems to discuss with you — I want to do little projects with you. I never thought until just now that we can do that. What should we do.
We started to learn to make clothes together — or learn Chinese — or getting a movie projector. Can’t I do something now?
No. I am alone without you and you were the “idea-woman” and general instigator of all our wild adventures.
When you were sick you worried because you could not give me something that you wanted to and thought I needed. You needn’t have worried.
Just as I told you then there was no real need because I loved you in so many ways so much. And now it is clearly even more true — you can give me nothing now yet I love you so that you stand in my way of loving anyone else — but I want you to stand there. You, dead, are so much better than anyone else alive
I know you will assure me that I am foolish and that you want me to have full happiness and don’t want to be in my way. I’ll bet you are surprised that I don’t even have a girlfriend (except you, sweetheart) after two years.
But you can’t help it, darling, nor can I — I don’t understand it, for I have met many girls and very nice ones and I don’t want to remain alone — but in two or three meetings they all seem ashes. You only are left to me. You are real.
My darling wife, I do adore you. I love my wife. My wife is dead.
PS Please excuse my not mailing this — but I don’t know your new address.
Richard Feynman to Arline – Read by Oscar Isaac
Feynman wrote these lines to feel better.
Feynman then made new marriages and divorced. It all happened in the shadow of his tragic first marriage.